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12:48 pm: Music Class
Teddy and I attended our first Mommy & Me music class yesterday at his school. Fortunately, the teacher knows him well, so she was very reassuring. She whispered to me at one point: "by the third class, he'll be jumping right in!"

The first class? Not so much. Lots of sitting and half-heartedly participating. Oddly enough, he got quite agitated if I didn't do what he thought I was supposed to do. So when I squatted or sat next to him when everyone else was standing up (but he was sitting), he would hiss "Mommy! Stand up!" to me, while remaining seated himself.

:shrug:

He's definitely an observer. It takes him a looong time to feel comfortable in new circumstances. He did tell the teacher that he likes doing music in the smaller class (6 friends [kids], 4 parents) better than at school (1 teacher, maybe 10 kids?). And he told me afterward that music class was "GREAT!"

I don't want to push him too far out of his comfort zone, and I definitely don't want him to think he's not ok the way he is, but I also don't want him to miss opportunities because he's hesitating so much.

It does feel very weird to see him so quiet and shy with others, when he's so outgoing at home and with people he knows.

And yet he is who he is and I love who he is and I certainly wouldn't want him to think anything else.

Peter and I talked about it, and I think we're going to try to find more classes and things for him, so he at least gets used to trying new things and meeting new people.

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From:wendymarques
Date:February 23rd, 2009 03:17 pm (UTC)

I hear you!

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If it makes you feel any better, Nicolas is also a slow-joiner. It is like he needs to check everything out before he starts in. Once he is comfortable though, he doesn't hesitate to do something. It just takes a while (longer than I'd like since he occasionally misses out on things) for him to get comfortable.
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From:katehaney
Date:February 23rd, 2009 10:05 pm (UTC)

That *does* help

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Thanks! It's good to know Teddy's not the only one. And much of the time I greatly appreciate that he doesn't jump in -- I think he's lots safer (and I'm less nervous) as a result.

Besides, I can hardly blame him, 'cause I'm not a joiner myself. :)
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