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06:39 am: just when I thought I knew what I was doing...
I should've known better. Four years of experience as a parent and one thing has always been true: everything changes.

Peter and I have been living it up for the past couple of months. After the horror that was 3, Teddy finally turned 4 a couple of months late. He was sweet and charming and talkative and really just lovely. Back to the kid we knew at 2 who disappeared for a year. His personality had emerged more, of course, but he was like a two-year-old otherwise: a pleasure to be around and no diaper changing! What more could a parent want?

A couple of days ago, Teddy started acting like a pill. I thought maybe he was coming down with something -- he gets wicked crabby just before he gets sick -- but he wasn't lethargic (and, more telling, he still isn't sick).

So we're adjusting to parenting this new child. This one responds very quickly to low blood sugar and to fatigue, so we're working on providing food and sleep before he knows he needs them. We're being more firm when he starts trying to wheedle things out of us. We're cutting off the parental teasing if he doesn't immediately respond to the jokes.

Those steps are working so far. He's not been a misery to live with. He's still a great kid. He's just different. He's asserting his independence and expressing his opinions and telling us about his moods ("I'M VERY CRABBY!"). Mostly good things (though it might've been nice if he did the whole climbing-all-over-everything phase when he was younger and lighter to lift off the table, the counter, the window sill, etc.).

I still haven't figured out how to deal with his new claims that he doesn't like school, because "it's really a little bit too long." He comes home happy to have gone. And he protests about going every day.

The first time he said it, I was really thrown and responded poorly ("but you love school! don't be silly!"... way to dismiss his feelings, Kate!). I've since tried talking about it, to get at whatever the real issue is, and all he says is that it's too long.

I'll keep trying. I'll probably get it just about the time school's out for the summer. Then he'll start not telling me about summer camp.

Current Location: Longmeadow
Current Mood: confusedconfused

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From:swingdoc
Date:May 22nd, 2009 09:05 pm (UTC)
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Colin seems to be going through a similar transition. Back to defiance, pushing limits, doing everything he knows he's not supposed to do. *pulls out hair* I miss my sweetheart!
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From:katehaney
Date:May 22nd, 2009 10:12 pm (UTC)

I know the feeling!

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Even knowing the sweetheart is in there SOMEWHERE, I get so frustrated sometimes!

My mantra: it's a phase. it's normal. it's a phase. it will pass. it's normal. it's a phase. it will pass.
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