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01:55 pm: Vulnerability (Brené Brown TEDxHouston)
Saw a TED talk that's got me thinking (eek!).



Brené Brown is probably the world expert on shame. I'm not sure how I missed reading her books, but of course I'm correcting that immediately.

In any case, her talk reminded me that all the best things in my life have also led to the greatest vulnerability and pain.

Of course, love comes to mind first. There's no way to have a deep relationship with somebody without opening yourself up. Dancing does the same thing (if not to the same degree). It occurred to me, however, that perhaps the high-school regression, the cliquishness, the immaturity that mark a dance scene are not an unfortunate byproduct but in fact integral to the vulnerability required to get the connection and the joy.

I'd thought that parenting was an exception for a nanosecond, because it hasn't caused me pain (I know, I know, just wait), but my vulnerability there manifests instead as fear. Not debilitating (so far), but deeply distressing nonetheless (those endless, merciless seconds of not knowing where Teddy was in the gallery parking lot were the most frightened I've ever been).

Brown says that strong people (she used another phrase, but that was my interpretation) accept their vulnerability and let it happen. The alternative is numbing yourself to all feeling (because we can't selectively numb).

hmm. Must think on this.

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From:(Anonymous)
Date:November 9th, 2010 10:27 pm (UTC)

Wow!

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Fascinating TED talk--interesting observations (yours!) and scary (prices for her books!) Thanks for sharing.

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From:katehaney
Date:November 10th, 2010 12:13 am (UTC)

not so scary

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I've been buying a fair amount of nonfiction lately. Stuff's expensive. :sigh:
From:(Anonymous)
Date:November 11th, 2010 02:57 pm (UTC)

Love TEd (from Inge)

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This awesome. Good share!
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From:katehaney
Date:November 13th, 2010 12:13 pm (UTC)

Thanks!

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I love TED too. I could get lost on their site for days. And, um, have.
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