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11:47 am: 30 Days of Truth: Day 17 → A book you’ve read that changed your views on something
A book. A book.

Surely we know better than that. But at least it doesn't ask for the book, because that would just spin me into orbit.

I've written about Outliers before, and mentioned The Once and Future King (though I'm not sure that changed my views as much as it influenced them, as I was mighty young when I started reading it and my views weren't fully formed -- though I probably presented them as such to others), so I'll go with something new here.

This is supposed to be a Teddy blog, so I could pick a parenting book. Should, probably.

Of course, I've pretty much bypassed the Teddy in my truthy posts, so I could pick something else.

("Waffle? Meet Kate!")

AHA! One of each.

One?

Aw crap. There I am again. OK, one. With the understanding that these ones just happen to be the ones I picked now and there are many others whose influence may be just as great.

("Hedge? Meet Kate!")

So. Parenting. Nurture Shock continues to influence my parenting greatly. I've had much franker, more direct conversations with Teddy about things like race and sexuality and worked quite hard to base most praise on effort. It's (I'm) a work in progress.

Not parenting. I wanted to pick something like Mistakes Were Made (but not by me) which is a terrific book that I wish changed me more.

Actually, it did change my views, which is the question at hand, but it didn't change my behavior.

In any case, I'm all set to write about Shakespeare and I'm bloody well going to write about Shakespeare. Dammit.

I spent a good chunk of my sophomore year in high school kind of obsessed with King Lear. I don't remember why, but there it is. I do know that Cordelia just... pissed me off. Little Miss Virtuous, lauded for her truth-at-all-costs, and she was a bitch, really.

Up until that point, I'd thought honesty was one of Those Things. Those Really Important Things. Those Things that you Do. (More likely: those things you get punished for not doing, when caught, but I was as melodramatic a teenager as any.) Cordelia was, for me, the perfect example of how much context matters.

Yes, Lear is a demanding, overbearing, pompous idiot. So? He was her father. He was old and crabby. And she was deliberately mean to him.

Bitch.

I did believe, even before Lear, that there are some things that Should Not Be Said... insulting people for things they couldn't help, for instance (or even talking about things that people can't help, which I'm not sure was the right way to go, but I still mostly adhere to it). Cordelia changed my view on Things That Should Be Said. And love is definitely one of those things. I've had many, many, many experiences since then that reinforced to me how important it is to tell people you love them. And someone who's asking to be told?

Dude, he really needs to hear it.

Current Location: Longmeadow
Current Mood: angrystill peeved, 32 years later
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From:(Anonymous)
Date:April 6th, 2011 03:02 pm (UTC)

You are so right

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Tell the people you love that you love them. As often as you can. It makes the world a better place.

Meanness. Seems to be an epidemic.

Love you, Inge
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From:katehaney
Date:April 7th, 2011 12:47 pm (UTC)

Yep.

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Thanks Inge.

Love you too!
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