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10:41 am: Heartbroken
Teddy couldn't fall asleep last night "because he felt left out." He held me tight and cried into my neck because he wasn't in any pictures of the Indian Dance show at his school.

:sigh:

I tried to convince him to get in the pictures at the time, but he felt too shy. And who am I to criticize anyone who doesn't want his picture taken? But when a kid takes a long time to warm up and get used to an idea, sometimes he misses out.

I try very hard to strike a balance between letting him be who he is and making him aware of the consequences of his reluctance to join in.

What's worse is that I didn't understand what he was upset about at first. I thought he was talking about pictures that they drew at school, so I told him he should ask his art teacher if he could make a picture. But he can't make up a photograph, of course. The dancers are long-since gone.

He woke up this morning saying "I feel like I don't exist."

Shit.

Current Location: Longmeadow
Current Mood: sadsad

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From:(Anonymous)
Date:April 3rd, 2011 04:20 pm (UTC)

Ugh!

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Two of my boys have had that happen to them. Both of them now make sure to be in the pictures when it's time. I think that this is one of those "cause and effect" lessons that are better learned when they experience it (though it IS heartbreaking when it happens - for both you and him). It's funny because my two older ones are now at the age where their friends are actively trying to avoid being in pictures - but my kids usually make a point of being in there so that they don't miss being in the scrapbook :-).

Lori
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From:katehaney
Date:April 3rd, 2011 07:51 pm (UTC)

you're right

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I think it's one of those things where theory just isn't sufficient. :sigh:
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