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07:51 am: Thanksgiving 2: The Backup Plan (still with the me me me)
Everyone in my family is sick (except my Dad, so far, send karma, knock wood, cross fingers, toss salt, whatever works to keep him well!), so Thanksgiving has been canceled.

I don't think I've ever missed a Thanksgiving with my family; it's going to be weird to celebrate without them.

There will be a LOT of jello and lemon bread involved (without ~20 people to share), 'cause those are the 2 things I'd already made when the cancellation was announced.

I think we'll have a roast chicken, some veg, and the aforementioned jello and lemon bread. I'll probably do a practice run on the tarte tatin as well, 'cause I have the ingredients and I've never made it before. All the ingredients for everything else have been stowed away for later use.

So, um, yeah. Sh!t.

* * * * *

And yet, that is the trivial news. In the non-trivial news, four* people I know have lost parents recently. Four people my age: three colleagues (all close-ish, friend-like colleagues) and one old friend (a guy I dated in high school). I'm finding myself very weepy. Peter doesn't know how to deal with me. I don't know how to deal with me.

Teddy, on the other hand, pats my leg, tells me not to cry, and asks me to read him books. The snuggles do help.

I feel awful for the people involved, of course. I've sent letters to each, expressing condolences, sympathy, and my willingness to help however possible. And of course that's not enough and probably won't help, but there's nothing else a person can really do, eh?

And I Can't. Even. Go. There. with thinking about how I would cope in their situation. If I just stick my toe over the edge in sympathy, I break down.

I love my parents so much, both as people and as friends, and the idea of losing them is more than I can handle. And yet three people I know well are dealing with just that.

How do they do it?

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I suspect the labyrinthitis isn't helping. After skipping Friday night, I took a clonazepam again last night. It does seem to keep me steadier, though the hangover isn't so fun. I can't tell any difference with the meclizine at all, so I'm not going to take that any more. The clonazepam is the addictive one, so I hope I can cut that out too (I'm supposed to take one a night for a week, than half of one a night after that, but I prefer none).


* Edited to add the 4th, dammit.

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Current Mood: sadsad

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From:(Anonymous)
Date:November 22nd, 2009 05:35 pm (UTC)

ouch

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Your illness sounds awful, though not as awful, I know, as worrying about your folks and cancelling the traditional Thanksgiving and trying to help friends "long distance" wise. If I could make it all better, I would. But all I can do is send a long-distance hug. And my love, -- Donna
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From:katehaney
Date:November 22nd, 2009 09:01 pm (UTC)

Hugs help!!

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Thanks Donna! :)
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From:swingchickie
Date:November 22nd, 2009 06:16 pm (UTC)
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it sounds like the perfect storm of emotion -- the holidays, not feeling well, and bad news from friends that you can't imagine having to deal with. i'd be all weepy too. *hug*

if you want turkey this week instead of cooking a whole one, a lot of restaurants and supermarkets (heck, boston market too) will sell you a cooked turkey breast or a couple of pounds of cooked turkey meat so you don't have to do the work. if it were just me and jack, i'd totally be doing that. (and probably having them provide me with sides too.)
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From:katehaney
Date:November 22nd, 2009 09:02 pm (UTC)

I've thought about it

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...and that menu my cousin Jim posted on FB? YUM!! But we have enough of the trimmings already done that it's no big deal to roast a chicken and steam some seaweed (asparagus). :)

Thanks for the hug! Teddy's pretty sick of my requests at this point.
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From:occhi_cinesi
Date:November 25th, 2009 12:41 am (UTC)

The weekend...

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I wonder, if dd's cough/runny nose has gone away by Saturday morning, we could visit for a Saturday overnight?

Dh is working and we'd rather not spend the time with the basement door (down to where dh is working all weekend)...

...if you'll have us for a visit...?
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From:katehaney
Date:November 25th, 2009 01:39 am (UTC)

as long as everyone's well...

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We'd LOVE to see you!
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