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07:38 am: Y'know what? One is good
I have baby pangs. I do love babies (and toddlers and kids). And I do wish Teddy had a sibling.

And yet... sometimes... Like when I give another kid a ride to soccer practice and he comes to dinner with us afterward and he and Teddy have a fantastic time despite the occasional clashes and Teddy says wouldn't it be awesome if J were my brother and they laugh and they talk and they keep each other occupied and they laugh and they laugh and they make up games and they laugh and have an AWESOME time and all that?

I'm still overwhelmed. There's so very much... activity. So much talking and planning and scrambling and scuffling and laughing and talking.

They're terrific together. I'm thrilled that they're friends. J is a smart, sweet kid who plays along with Teddy's outrageous games of make believe and contributes his own silly games. His parents have very similar approaches to parenting as mine and Peter's.

And yet... it's exponentially more complicated. There's Teddy. There's J. There's Teddy's response to J. There's J's response to Teddy. There's the dynamic of two with me and Peter.

Maybe it's just the complexity everywhere else in my life right now, but I'm diggin' simple.

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Date:October 13th, 2011 01:24 pm (UTC)
Wasn't it in NurtureShock, that single kids have great friends b/c the friend can leave, so they treat them with more respect and kindness than say, a sibling, who can't leave, who is blood and has to be family, regardless of how poorly they are treated (that is, until they're adults and can leave)?

So right now, you're getting the best of both worlds: a simple life with an awesome kid who has great friends who go home after their visit. Bits of complexity between moments of simple.

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Date:October 13th, 2011 02:32 pm (UTC)

excellent point

I do have a pretty sweet situation at the moment. Lucky me. :)
Date:October 13th, 2011 02:41 pm (UTC)
"Exponentially more complicated" sums it up quite well. With three, it's beautiful when they work well together. When they don't... well... it's exponentially more complicated.

The kids outnumber the adults around here. Sometimes it can feel like they're ganging up on you. But I can't even remember what it was like to have just one anymore. I think that you get used to what you have, and make the best of your reality. Not wrong either way... just different.

And the noise! Oh man, there is a lot of noise.

:-) Lori
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Date:October 13th, 2011 04:40 pm (UTC)

I can't even imagine 3...

...and I have 2 siblings. Yikes.

The noise is kinda huge, isn't it? And girls seem to be (based on an unscientific poll of myself volunteering in Teddy's kindergarten last year) even noisier than the boys.
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